{"id":1171,"date":"2012-09-07T02:48:00","date_gmt":"2012-09-07T02:48:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/box2067.temp.domains\/~atinytri\/concerns\/"},"modified":"2021-06-03T11:36:56","modified_gmt":"2021-06-03T15:36:56","slug":"concerns","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/","title":{"rendered":"Concerns having kids 20 Months Apart"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"1000\" height=\"1000\" src=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg\" alt=\"\" class=\"wp-image-5246\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-320x320.jpg 320w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-768x768.jpg 768w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-800x800.jpg 800w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-500x500.jpg 500w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-655x655.jpg 655w, https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-100x100.jpg 100w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>Since finding out about this pregnancy my mind has been fluctuating between denial and silent freak outs. Our boys will be 20 months apart, which puts us squarely in the newborn + still pretty young toddler department. As such I have a few concerns and doubts running through my mind about have kids 20 months apart:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<!--more-->\n\n\n\n<div id=\"ez-toc-container\" class=\"ez-toc-v2_0_64 counter-hierarchy ez-toc-counter ez-toc-light-blue ez-toc-container-direction\">\n<p class=\"ez-toc-title\">Skip ahead!<\/p>\n<label for=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6621b0e6cbc55\" class=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-label\"><span class=\"\"><span class=\"eztoc-hide\" style=\"display:none;\">Toggle<\/span><span class=\"ez-toc-icon-toggle-span\"><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" class=\"list-377408\" width=\"20px\" height=\"20px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" fill=\"none\"><path d=\"M6 6H4v2h2V6zm14 0H8v2h12V6zM4 11h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2zM4 16h2v2H4v-2zm16 0H8v2h12v-2z\" fill=\"currentColor\"><\/path><\/svg><svg style=\"fill: #999;color:#999\" class=\"arrow-unsorted-368013\" xmlns=\"http:\/\/www.w3.org\/2000\/svg\" width=\"10px\" height=\"10px\" viewBox=\"0 0 24 24\" version=\"1.2\" baseProfile=\"tiny\"><path d=\"M18.2 9.3l-6.2-6.3-6.2 6.3c-.2.2-.3.4-.3.7s.1.5.3.7c.2.2.4.3.7.3h11c.3 0 .5-.1.7-.3.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7zM5.8 14.7l6.2 6.3 6.2-6.3c.2-.2.3-.5.3-.7s-.1-.5-.3-.7c-.2-.2-.4-.3-.7-.3h-11c-.3 0-.5.1-.7.3-.2.2-.3.5-.3.7s.1.5.3.7z\"\/><\/svg><\/span><\/span><\/label><input type=\"checkbox\"  id=\"ez-toc-cssicon-toggle-item-6621b0e6cbc55\"  aria-label=\"Toggle\" \/><nav><ul class='ez-toc-list ez-toc-list-level-1 ' ><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-1\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-my-toddler-be-potty-trained-by-the-time-baby-is-born\" title=\"Will my toddler be potty trained by the time baby is born?\">Will my toddler be potty trained by the time baby is born?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-2\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-my-toddler-be-ready-to-transition-from-his-crib-to-a-bed\" title=\"Will my toddler be ready to transition from his crib to a bed?\">Will my toddler be ready to transition from his crib to a bed?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-3\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-my-toddler-be-ready-for-some-kind-of-day-care\" title=\"Will my toddler be ready for some kind of day care? \">Will my toddler be ready for some kind of day care? <\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-4\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-we-find-help\" title=\"Will we find help?\">Will we find help?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-5\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#How-will-I-handle-our-visitors\" title=\"How will I handle our visitors?\">How will I handle our visitors?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-6\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-I-have-enough-quality-time-with-my-toddler\" title=\"Will I have enough quality time with my toddler?\">Will I have enough quality time with my toddler?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-7\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-I-be-able-to-give-baby-the-stimulation-he-needs\" title=\"Will I be able to give baby the stimulation he needs?\">Will I be able to give baby the stimulation he needs?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-8\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-we-have-breastfeeding-problems-again\" title=\"Will we have breastfeeding problems again?\">Will we have breastfeeding problems again?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-9\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#Will-baby-be-a-fussy-baby\" title=\"Will baby be a fussy baby?\">Will baby be a fussy baby?<\/a><\/li><li class='ez-toc-page-1 ez-toc-heading-level-2'><a class=\"ez-toc-link ez-toc-heading-10\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/#And-also\" title=\"And also:\">And also:<\/a><\/li><\/ul><\/nav><\/div>\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-my-toddler-be-potty-trained-by-the-time-baby-is-born\"><\/span><strong>Will my toddler be potty trained by the time baby is born?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>There&#8217;s potential for yes, but from many real life friends I&#8217;ve heard that 22\/23 months seems to be a magical time for getting this done. As such, if it&#8217;s not done beforehand I&#8217;m not sure I&#8217;ll be up to it with a 2 month old around.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-my-toddler-be-ready-to-transition-from-his-crib-to-a-bed\"><\/span><strong>Will my toddler be ready to transition from his crib to a bed?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If yes, will we just remove a side of his crib to use as a toddler bed, or move him to a full size bed? This of course will determine whether we need to buy another crib.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-my-toddler-be-ready-for-some-kind-of-day-care\"><\/span><strong>Will my toddler be ready for some kind of day care? <\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;m thinking a part time solution could give me some &#8220;easier&#8221; one on one time with my toddler, but it might also be harder having to leave the house according to a schedule!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-we-find-help\"><\/span><strong>Will we find help?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>While there is no shortage of people wanting to work, it&#8217;s not easy to find someone reliable, someone I can comfortably leave with my kids. But, M is scheduled to be in a surgery rotation when Baby Boy 2 is born and if we don&#8217;t get some kind of help I&#8217;m going to have serious problems handling both boys on my own all day, every day.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"How-will-I-handle-our-visitors\"><\/span><strong>How will I handle our visitors?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>The hardest time I had with my first baby during the first two weeks, was dealing with the barrage of visitors. Well meaning as they might be, all unsolicited advice, requests to hold the baby and general take over of my living room was really hard to deal with when I was sleep deprived and trying to establish breastfeeding. Will my toddler be able to distract them enough?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-I-have-enough-quality-time-with-my-toddler\"><\/span><strong>Will I have enough quality time with my toddler?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I remember so many hours of nursing on the couch when he was a newborn that I&#8217;m afraid that while I&#8217;m bound to the couch with baby, my toddler will get a little lost. He&#8217;s such a cuddle-bug that I worry about not being able to give him that attention he craves.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-I-be-able-to-give-baby-the-stimulation-he-needs\"><\/span><strong>Will I be able to give baby the stimulation he needs?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>With my first I could devote my undivided attention to him. I was hyper aware of every <a href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/a-baby-smile\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"mini-phase (opens in a new tab)\">mini-phase<\/a> he was going through and able to put my full energy into stimulating him with educational and developmentally appropriate activities. Will I be able to do the same for baby 2 or will I be too distracted in toddler-world?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-we-have-breastfeeding-problems-again\"><\/span><strong>Will we have breastfeeding problems again?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I&#8217;d like to think that with over a year of experience, it should be easier, but a newborn is a newborn and he&#8217;ll have to learn too. I put this in the category of expecting <a href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/feeding-chapter-4-mastitis\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"the worst (opens in a new tab)\">the worst<\/a> and hoping for the best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"Will-baby-be-a-fussy-baby\"><\/span><strong>Will baby be a fussy baby?<\/strong><span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>My baby boy was <a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"not the best sleeper (opens in a new tab)\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/project-sleep-first-year\/\" target=\"_blank\">not the best sleeper<\/a> and <a href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/feeding-chapter-5-looking-forward\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" aria-label=\"not a great nurser (opens in a new tab)\">not a great nurser<\/a> for quite a while, but he was very calm and to this day has a great easy-going temperament. Is it karma that I should get a fussy one next? I also have a total unproven theory that winter babies are fussier.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\"><span class=\"ez-toc-section\" id=\"And-also\"><\/span>And also:<span class=\"ez-toc-section-end\"><\/span><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>Will the pregnancy go smoothly? Will baby be healthy and happy? What kind of birth experience will I have? What hospital will I deliver at? Will I keep my same doctor? Lots of unknowns as I think about a VBAC but wait to see how things progress.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Since finding out about this pregnancy my mind has been fluctuating between denial and silent freak outs. Our boys will be 20 months apart, which puts us squarely in the newborn + still pretty young toddler department. As such I have a few concerns and doubts running through my mind about have kids 20 months &hellip;<\/p>\n<p class=\"read-more\"> <a class=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/concerns\/\"> <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Concerns having kids 20 Months Apart<\/span> Read More &raquo;<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":5246,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","site-sidebar-layout":"default","site-content-layout":"default","ast-site-content-layout":"","site-content-style":"default","site-sidebar-style":"default","ast-global-header-display":"","ast-banner-title-visibility":"","ast-main-header-display":"","ast-hfb-above-header-display":"","ast-hfb-below-header-display":"","ast-hfb-mobile-header-display":"","site-post-title":"","ast-breadcrumbs-content":"","ast-featured-img":"","footer-sml-layout":"","theme-transparent-header-meta":"default","adv-header-id-meta":"","stick-header-meta":"","header-above-stick-meta":"","header-main-stick-meta":"","header-below-stick-meta":"","astra-migrate-meta-layouts":"","ast-page-background-enabled":"default","ast-page-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"ast-content-background-meta":{"desktop":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"tablet":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""},"mobile":{"background-color":"var(--ast-global-color-5)","background-image":"","background-repeat":"repeat","background-position":"center center","background-size":"auto","background-attachment":"scroll","background-type":"","background-media":"","overlay-type":"","overlay-color":"","overlay-gradient":""}},"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[64],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg",1000,1000,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-150x150.jpg",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-320x320.jpg",320,320,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart-768x768.jpg",768,768,true],"large":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg",1000,1000,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg",1000,1000,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg",1000,1000,false],"yarpp-thumbnail":["https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/preparing-for-kids-20-months-apart.jpg",120,120,false]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"Daphna","author_link":"https:\/\/www.atinytrip.com\/author\/daphna\/"},"uagb_comment_info":1,"uagb_excerpt":"Since finding out about this pregnancy my mind has been fluctuating between denial and silent freak outs. 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